Dear Goddess (or God),
I am a breakthrough queen. I can make meaning out of almost anything and transmute it into something that can serve myself and others. I can find the lesson in even the most ordinary or difficult situations. And I love helping others do this on my retreats and in my Soul Sessions.
But there is one thing that gets in the way of breakthroughs. Wanna know what it is?
>>> EXPECTATIONS <<<
I remember being at a personal growth conference where we had to partner up. I buddied with a woman who appeared to be a lot like me. She was young, athletic and smiled a lot. We were naturally drawn to each other.
But after one day spent together during the conference, it was clear we weren't a good match. She made fun of the speakers and content, and thought it was silly. I was riveted, sitting on the edge of my seat, and super into it. It was clear, we wanted different things out of this event.
Truthfully, there were a lot of things I didn't like about the conference. It was too loud, too cold, there were too many people, and there was no healthy food to buy near the event center. And the more I spent time with my buddy, the more skeptical I became. Maybe this was stupid. Everything was not going as I hoped or expected.
At that moment, I realized I had to make a decision if I wanted to get anything out of the event.
I decided that NOTHING could stop me from finding the meaning in this conference. I decided that EVERYTHING was going to show me more about myself, even and especially the things I didn't like.
When my partner started to banter, I smiled and turned my focus towards the content, not allowing myself to get sucked in. I used the discomforts of temperature, noise, size of the group, and gross food to sculpt me and make me stronger. It was temporary, I told myself. Sometimes, to get the breakthrough, we have to endure discomfort. We have to let go of what we think we need to receive what's happening before us.
As a result, I walked away from that conference an inspired and alive soul. I felt stronger in my ability to not let a damn thing in my orbit bring me down, no matter what. I was in charge of me. Nothing outside of me could touch the core of my inner peace, fortitude and ability to breakthrough.
It was an important experience, the lesson of which I use in my life, even today.
Wanna be a breakthrough Queen or King? Check out these tips below:
Stop obsessing about what is wrong and focus on what is RIGHT (at an event, in your relationship, with your work, etc.) The ability to find gifts in situation/people is a habit that comes from inside. It is NOT circumstantial.
Let go of your expectations - of others, of experiences, of yourself. Your expectations are what keep you at a distance from the gifts of your lived experience. They keep you out of presence and hold you at an arms length from the life before you.
See everything before you as a teacher - even the assholes, even the hard situations. Ask yourself, what is this here to teach me?
Stop limiting yourself by putting conditions on things - I'll only love him/her when...I can only create if...the conference has to have...the speaker better focus on...Putting conditions on experiences and people comes from the need to control. Let go and receive the lessons that are before you.
Say thank you when you have a breakthrough. What you appreciate appreciates. Want more breakthroughs? Say thank you to the universe, yourself, God, source, for even the small ones. You'll get loads more.
To your breakthroughs,